... Sometimes the habit of reading blogs make you to ponder on the issues which needs to be addressed strongly in public and on Social media. Today, while reading the blogs of the great writer Mr. Chetan Bhagat, I was struck by a point where he advises women to be more Self Confident and to have more Self respect! (words were not in the same way, though!). After reading the blog, I realized that there was something deep into that, which needs to be explained in depth!
While pursing my graduation, I came across lot of couples where all the girlfriend had one thing in common! that their boyfriend's were used to take them for granted. I personally did not have any stable relation at that time so I was always curious about Pros & cons of having a relationship. Perhaps, I was hurrying myself up to get into a stable relationship because that is what every college goer desires, to have a girlfriend/boyfriend! May be, that was the effect of my age and sometimes to be honest, I felt inferior to the guys who had girlfriends! :) But I did have close female friends with whom I was used to discuss their relation with their guys and what I noticed in their relation, was the lack of Trust and the existence of insecurity!
Lack of Trust, perhaps, is the biggest reason for most of the couple to call of their relation and in some cases, relations have even broken after 6-7 Years. Astonishing! Aint it? I read somewhere once, "Distrust in a relationship, is like a crack in the mirror which can never be in its original self again!" The guys must understand that their girls have a world outside them too. She has other friends, she loves hanging around with them too and most importantly she may also have other male friends who are dear to her ! But that doesn't mean She's cheating on you. A girl, when she is in love, can do anything for her guy and by disrespecting her or by distrusting her, you are only giving her reasons to call it off with you. There is no point of getting obsessive and possessive, if she is meant to be with you, she will be with you! Shrug this worm of Distrust off your mind! This distrust leads to insecurity!
The same goes for girls too. You must feel more strengthened when you are in LOVE with a guy whom you have chosen yourself. I have seen girls, praising about their guys endlessly or talking about him solely, even
when you are sitting with your "Pals" who have been your friends even before he entered in your life. Understand! that your boyfriend might be dear to you but he is just a human being and your other male friends have their space and self respect too, so, by doing this you are first of all spoiling the fun which you would probably have with your friends and secondly, pushing your Pals in the ditch of boredom!
Instead, praise him, in front of him! He will feel more secured and contented. Do not accept everything what he demands from you and remember, you still have the parents whom you are answerable to! By doing so, you are asking your guy to live in curiosity and trust me! guys love this!
Have a self respect and do not accept his ego cos you have your own, right! Voice your likes and dislikes to him and trust me! He will be yours forever!!
Cheers!!!!!!!!
