.......Surviving with an orphan disease!

..... Most of the times in our life, we worry solely about achieving SUCCESS, about our future and about the prospects of making our finances strong. Hardly is the time, when we think about the people who have played a huge role in our lives to bring us to a level where we are confident of ourselves and can actually think about the betterment of our respective future. Those people, who were on Cloud 9, when we were born in this world full of agonies but still they managed to smile and felt complete. They compromised all their desires on giving us a better future and sacrificed their sleep and dreams in order to enable us to dream and to dream big!! We, in this materialistic world, call them MOM & DAD!!


"Mom is a person where our heart stays! & Dad is a creature, whose heart stays with us!!!"

Perhaps, this is the reason why! we are so possessive about our Mom and subsequently Dad is so possessive about us!

But, there is nothing new in explaining the definition of MOM & DAD!
What's new is, to realize the truth! To envisage the sense of loneliness and void created after they are gone! Lets face it and realize that this is the truth! I know, its hard to believe that the creatures whom we thought immortal, can be gone someday leaving behind beautiful memories and after setting a substantial benchmark which no other person can compete with!
The only thing which they expect is LOVE as a return gift against the many expensive gifts they have given us all through our life. Now is the time when we realize the truth, and yes! accept it too!
Alas! they will not be there forever, so lets squeeze each and every moment spent with them and extract every single drop of happiness from it to make them feel ecstatic, to make them complete again, to make them realize their dreams and to make them to live again! Otherwise, the days are not far where we can find ourselves Surviving with an orphan disease! A disease of loneliness! A disease of Emptiness! A disease of incompleteness!!

Thanks for reading!
Cheers:)

Are you over sharing your relationship???

Are you putting the details of your love life all over the Internet without realizing it? 

Sharing the intimate details of your life online is dangerous business and most often than not we don't realize where and when to draw the line. Some things are better off kept private. Here are a few signs that tell you whether or not you're over-sharing your relationships online.

1. Your friends know every detail of your relationship- Did you change your relationship status from 'single' to 'committed' after just a few dates? If your friends know your Saturday night plans or what you gifted your partner on their promotion, it might be time to back off just a little.

2. You post everything up for approval- Are you obsessed with getting 'likes' and comments on your pictures and updates? If you like capturing every little moment and put it up online for adulation and approval, its time to stop. Realize that people you hardly know unknowingly have a say on your life and you're only pining for that attention instead of warding it away.

3.You and your partner have more contact online than in person- If the two of you are incredibly busy with your lives but don't miss a chance to post some random bouts of affection for each other online, its time to think about how much of that PDA is real and how much is made up

4.You update your status on a date- The minute that romantic evening you had planned out for yourself begins, you feel the need to inform the entire world about it. You're also concerned about what others must be thinking of you after reading your update. This makes the experience more superficial than meaningful.

5.You're concerned about what others think of your partner- Over most things, you're swayed by the opinions of your friends and family based on what they see online. Sometimes even comments from acquaintances or complete strangers bother you.

Going through an emotionally abusive relationships???

Being in an emotionally abusive relationship drains you completely. Emotional abuse comes in many forms - be it tormenting you to live up to their rules and regulations or a romantic entanglement. But you always don't have to live with it. There are ways you can tackle the situation and the person and come out of this mess strongly. 

Address the issue 

It is very important to address the situation. Do not overlook. Remember that you can change the situation, but not expect the other person or your partner to change completely. Show him/her how damaging his/ her behavior is and how it is affecting not only you but your relationship with him/her. You can then hope he/she will make a decision to change. The abusiveness in him/her is rooted in multiple layers of their emotions and perspectives, thus it will take some time for him/her to understand your situation. 

Do not compromise 

Compromising yourself in an emotionally abusive relationship will not heal your situation. You should not change yourself for anybody, just because he/she expects you to comply to their rules and regulations. That is not how a relationship works. Once you are firm and make a stand, he/she will understand gradually that you cannot be emotionally abused. 

A relation is about two individuals being together 

A relationship is about give and take. It can never be a one-sided affair. He/she also needs to understand that you have your own say in the relationship. Try and voice your opinions as well. Do not keep quiet and just listen to him/her. Make sure he/she hears you out, so that they know that they cannot emotionally abuse you. 

Learn to say NO 

It is crucial to say 'No' to him/her at times. If you always agree to what he/she tells you or expects you to do; he/she will take advantage of the situation.

Are you being used by her??????

"It started out fine and full of promise. But as time goes on, you cannot help but shake that feeling that she is using you, and giving nothing in return".

One of the cruelest things a woman can do to a guy, is to know that he has a soft spot for her and believes in her niceness, but will use that to sweetly use him as a way to pass the time and help do odd-jobs, and to keep him hanging. She also offers nothing in return apart from empty words. A fake friendship of one-sided convenience. In short, you are her go-to person, her Man Friday.

In such cases, the best thing you can do yourself is simply this - save yourself before the inevitable showdown, take the higher ground and cut off ties. Do this not to get back at her, but to simply realize that you are not getting younger and you should be focusing your efforts and energies on a girl that truly feels for you and reciprocates. Here are some of the signs that you are being royally used. It's important that you learn to read these signs, because she will never tell you the same in a blunt manner. After all, why would she give up the opportunity of having a glorified servant for free?

She wants a lot of space
Are you friends with someone who calls and messages you often or wants to meet you only when in need and having done that, ignores you for a week or so, before the Next Big Emergency? Every time she ignores you or pushes you away, you may find yourself falling more madly in love with her. On the other hand, she's probably not only playing you like a puppet, but having sex with other guys who probably don't treat her even half as nice as you do. Remember this - when a girl claims to really like you, but avoids you for stretches of time despite claiming to "never get tired of spending time with you" there's a good chance there's another guy in her life and that given the opportunity, she will be sleeping with him. Save yourself for a better woman.

Friend zone!
She hugs you and calls you over for movies at her place at the other end of town. Like a fool, you go. She will greet you with a hug, perhaps. If she is hungry, she will ask you to go down and pick up a sandwich. You will willingly go, thinking that it'll score you some brownie points for being 'such a sweet guy'. You feel good about yourself, but you are living in a fool's paradise. You are being TOO nice. In effect, you are her lap-dog. She'll offer you a drink and a few snacks. But will keep well away from you, proximity-wise. Get wise! You could probably have more fun hanging out with someone else.

You barely know her friends
When a girl uses you, there's a good chance you're going to meet just a few - in none at all - of her friends. If she calls you over but always has some of her girlfriends over or worse, some other guy who she has way better body language with, make an excuse and LEAVE. And when she calls you over to a party, she barely pays you any attention, given that you barely know anyone else there. It's something most guys almost always forgive and forget. If she's convinced that you're the man in her life, she'd proudly make you meet her friends.

Benefit of the doubt
She may be genuinely confused about the kind of relationship both of you share, especially if she's just broken up with her guy or is still in a relationship with some other guy. But the point is she's confused. That doesn't mean YOU need to be a part of that confusion. If she loves you, there's nothing to be confused about. It's as simple as that. If she's still in love with another guy, you're not the winner here. You're the scapegoat filling up the blanks when her boyfriend or another guy doesn't have the time for her.

She wants you to listen, but not the other way around
Are you in love with a girl who loves talking about her own life and her little problems? Does she tell you about how bad her ex-boyfriend was? And on the other hand, every time you try telling something to her, does she try top keep the conversation short and offer you solutions that you have already thought about? Does she tell you to 'man up' and offer you no sympathy whatsoever? If she did love you, she'd be more interested to know about you and your life than whining about her own aches and pains.

If the answer to any of the above is a 'yes', then it's time you dedicate the Led Zeppelin song to her called 'Babe, I'm Gonna Leave You'

Cell Phone Etiquette- A must read

1. Do respect those who are with you. When you're engaged face-to-face with others, either in a meeting or a conversation, give them your complete and undivided attention. Avoid texting or taking calls. If a call is important, apologize and ask permission before accepting it.

2. Don't yell. The average person talks three times louder on a cellphone than they do in a face-to-face conversation. Always be mindful of your volume.

3. Do be a good dining companion. No one wants to be a captive audience to a third-party cellphone conversation, or to sit in silence while their dining companion texts with someone. Always silence and store your phone before being seated. Never put your mobile phone on the table.

4. Don't ignore universal quiet zones such as the theater, religious places, the library, your daughter's dance recital and funerals.

5. Do let voice mail do its job. When you're in the company of others, let voice mail handle non-urgent calls.

6. Don't make wait staff wait. Whether it's your turn in line or time to order at the table, always make yourself available to the server. Making servers and other patrons wait for you to finish a personal phone call is never acceptable. If the call is important, step away from the table or get out of line.

7. Don't text and drive. There is no message that is so important.

8. Do keep arguments under wraps. Nobody can hear the person on the other end. All they are aware of is a one-sided screaming match a few feet away.

9. Don't forget to filter your language. A rule of thumb: If you wouldn't walk through a busy public place with a particular word or comment printed on your T-shirt, don't use it in cellphone conversations.

10. Do respect the personal space of others. When you must use your phone in public, try to keep at least 10 feet (three meters) between you and others.

11. Do exercise good international calling behaviour. The rules of cellphone etiquette vary from country to country.

Good cellphone etiquette is similar to common courtesy. Conversations and text exchanges have a tendency to distract people from what's happening in front of them. Cellphone users should be thoughtful, courteous and respect the people around them.

Crimson Tide

Remember the great hollywood movie "Crimson Tide" from the year 1995 where Denzel Washington (Lt. commander Ron Hunter) and Gene Hackman (Capt. Ramsey), had hell lot of conflicts due to differences in their opinion over Nuclear attack. The movie teaches us a lot and the most important conclusion which I could draw from the movie was to learn and survive with the differences in the people.

Let me put it across in this way, How many times in our respective offices do we think that our boss is wrong and we are right?? How many times do we think that we are being ordered by a person who is comparatively under qualified than us??  The problem here is not your boss but its all about perception and perseverance. We, at our age and with our understanding consider ourselves superior whereas the boss with his experience, consider us kids and perhaps ends up underestimating our innate quality of taking the risks.

Yes, as per a survey which I found in "Times of India", Indian population consists of 52% youngsters (age group 18-30), which indicates the amount of risk taking ability of India but still we lag and worry about poor governance. We fight in this cut throat world to make our existence felt but unfortunately ends up becoming something who is a slave and can work long hours if they are paid a handsome package.

The idea of me bringing the reference of the movie "Crimson Tide" was only to highlight the point that being a fresher in any industry is not a crime and bosses in the respective industry must welcome the fresh ideas which a fresher brings with him. I have faced this situation in my previous company where I was always used to think that I was good at everything and my everything included everything. But my boss had this ego clashes and a sense of inferiority in something which I am yet to find out. I performed and performed well. I ended up giving my company the ROI of 1500% but still my boss was never happy and always wanted me to follow his footsteps. As far as I am concerned, I would never want to follow any body because it would only lead to me to positions they are in..........

Heights of Insanity

" Time- 11 am, location- MG Road (One of the busiest road of Bangalore and also called as financial hub of Bangalore, India). The incident is all about a Tempo Traveler (Force Motors make) and another white vehicle, an Ambassador ( Yes, Hindustan Motors make) with Lumex Lights (red light) on both but the only difference between those two vehicles was that the former one carried a living body which was about to die and the latter one carried a dead body which is still alive."
After reaching early at office, me and two of my colleagues were at Tea Point when entire traffic was brought to halt by our so efficient (sarcastically though) traffic cops. The reason was unknown to us but we were curious to know that (after all, we are human) and as we were on our way to ask the reason to one of a Lady traffic cop, what we saw, was something shocking and it was very difficult for me to believe that in particular (as I have always tried to be a responsible citizen). A white Tempo Traveler with a mirror image of AMBULANCE written on it, honking and screaming at its loudest node was stuck at other side of the road with the road full of other vehicles and defying the Ambulance to find its way out. Guess What!! the reason for that traffic congestion was still not known to us but after seeing the Ambulance, we approached a cop, only to receive even bigger shock when she said in local language, " State governor bartaare (State governor's coming)'. It took less than a fraction of second for me and my colleagues to get to the highest level of anger and we burst into it but for no use as the senior cop again told in local KANGLISH (saar!! don't shout at us).
Alas!! we couldn't do anything about it and for the first time I felt, " how helpless I was??" It was a question on my integrity, my values and my self respect. Till date, I keep asking myself whether I have any stand in this politically governed and ruled INDIA where a life holds no importance in front of those illiterate, self centered politicians.
I keep imagining as to what best could I have done at that particular moment but Seriously, Could I have done anything or its just an imagination?????????????????????????????????

Hope, the person battling with his/her life in the Ambulance is safe and god bless him/her.