Being in an emotionally abusive relationship drains you completely. Emotional abuse comes in many forms - be it tormenting you to live up to their rules and regulations or a romantic entanglement. But you always don't have to live with it. There are ways you can tackle the situation and the person and come out of this mess strongly.
Address the issue
It is very important to address the situation. Do not overlook. Remember that you can change the situation, but not expect the other person or your partner to change completely. Show him/her how damaging his/ her behavior is and how it is affecting not only you but your relationship with him/her. You can then hope he/she will make a decision to change. The abusiveness in him/her is rooted in multiple layers of their emotions and perspectives, thus it will take some time for him/her to understand your situation.
Do not compromise
Compromising yourself in an emotionally abusive relationship will not heal your situation. You should not change yourself for anybody, just because he/she expects you to comply to their rules and regulations. That is not how a relationship works. Once you are firm and make a stand, he/she will understand gradually that you cannot be emotionally abused.
A relation is about two individuals being together
A relationship is about give and take. It can never be a one-sided affair. He/she also needs to understand that you have your own say in the relationship. Try and voice your opinions as well. Do not keep quiet and just listen to him/her. Make sure he/she hears you out, so that they know that they cannot emotionally abuse you.
Learn to say NO
It is crucial to say 'No' to him/her at times. If you always agree to what he/she tells you or expects you to do; he/she will take advantage of the situation.
Address the issue
It is very important to address the situation. Do not overlook. Remember that you can change the situation, but not expect the other person or your partner to change completely. Show him/her how damaging his/ her behavior is and how it is affecting not only you but your relationship with him/her. You can then hope he/she will make a decision to change. The abusiveness in him/her is rooted in multiple layers of their emotions and perspectives, thus it will take some time for him/her to understand your situation.
Do not compromise
Compromising yourself in an emotionally abusive relationship will not heal your situation. You should not change yourself for anybody, just because he/she expects you to comply to their rules and regulations. That is not how a relationship works. Once you are firm and make a stand, he/she will understand gradually that you cannot be emotionally abused.
A relation is about two individuals being together
A relationship is about give and take. It can never be a one-sided affair. He/she also needs to understand that you have your own say in the relationship. Try and voice your opinions as well. Do not keep quiet and just listen to him/her. Make sure he/she hears you out, so that they know that they cannot emotionally abuse you.
Learn to say NO
It is crucial to say 'No' to him/her at times. If you always agree to what he/she tells you or expects you to do; he/she will take advantage of the situation.
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