Being a dad to a family.....

"A beautiful Saturday morning ( as it is being called by my mommy), though I personally have never gotten to see the beauty in Saturday morning ever. That is because I usually wake up at 11 AM on Saturdays!  And why not? I feel I have earned it after a week long hardship at work. The only beauty in Saturday morning which I could recollect or see is the bed tea in the morning or sometimes in the noon while I wake up, brought to me by my sweet mommy! Everything seems so perfect. I do not have to go anywhere and I am not even being asked to do anything at home. Still, household chores are in a systematic manner where the inventory of each and everything is maintained as perfectly as it is maintained in the manufacturing companies. I, apparently, never got to realise how it was so perfect! Then there came one more Saturday where I woke up as usual and saw the entire home in chaos without knowing the actual reason of it. Out of curiosity, I asked my mom as to what's wrong and why are we loosing the peace at our home? The answer which I got, not only shocked me but made me to realise one of the biggest truth of our life which we always ignore to accept."

The life would have never been the same if that one person wouldn't have sacrificed his dreams, desires, choices and leisure time to give us a comfortable life in which we never have to think anything but making our own life worth living in the way we wanted to! He lost his sleep over our studies to ensure we get good grades, lost his comfort to give us a comfortable life, did not enjoy his salary the way he wanted to but made sure it is spent in the way we wanted to! We kept complaining, cribbing, shouting and even worse cursing him for not having understood us (at least today I realise he did not have to), for not fulfilling all our needs (which today I feel was useless). The needs? Never got to even realise what his needs might be! 

He fell sick and bed ridden and then I got to realise that everything in home is because of him. It was his decision that the life which we live had to be lived in this way, it was he who shaped us in the human being we are today, no matter how strict he is but his strict behaviour taught me to be afraid of loosing cores of my life. It taught me to be strict too in the disciplines of my life. It taught me to take responsibility, make commitments and promises and more importantly to keep those commitments and promises. It's nobody but my dad who trained me to dream and assured me that he would always be there to take care of rest. 

Today, when I look back at my life! I realise he had already kept his promises and he had not only been a dad to me but also the dad to entire family! And I wonder, can I be the DAD to the entire family? Can I run the house the way he has without being selfish? Can I be the light of their blurring eyes? Can I ever understand how important it is to take care of our household chores as efficiently as we take care of works at workplace? 

Being a dad to a family is not easy! But it's indeed better than wasting our time in other materialistic cores. You know what I mean! Don't you? 

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Things of past

"Love oozed out of every bit of your action, your texts, your calls, your touch! We made promises! Got committed to something which we were never sure we could've achieved! You told that you would always be there for me. You told, "we are meant to be together till eternity". You reflected compassion, you empathised, you sympathised, you accepted my pain and we exchanged each other's agonies! You pretended to be supporting me during my struggle to make a prolific career for myself and I, perhaps, did the same! We went along well, people were envious. They bitched about us and we stood still and strong in all the adversities and complexities!"

Today, these are the things of past! We definitely have moved on. We are indeed happy in our respective space. We don't care about each other anymore. A simple text from you asking me whether I am doing fine, challenges my ego today and I replied informing you that I think I am better off without you! 
This is perhaps the most common situation in all the relations which starts on a perfect note and holds a promise for fruitful and genuine relationship in future to live by! But what we forget is the impact that these relation put on our respective souls. We are forced to live the rest of our lives with a broken heart which would probably or possibly can never trust somebody else in future. Even if it trusts, the bruises from past show up again and make the current relation too a burden to carry. People definitely move on, some even claim to have forgotten all the pain which they received from their past but I have not met a single person till date who doesn't remember how he/she was treated in his/her past relationship. Everybody lives in oblivion to this wonderful feeling called love which at one point in time was the only fuel to their existence. What went wrong? Where did we fumble? Why didn't we try to make things alright? Why couldn't we bid each other a well deserved farewell? What was so important that separated us? Was that relation meant to be broken? If that's the case then what's the guarantee that we may ever have a stable relation in future?
I have not been able to find the answers to any of these questions! Or perhaps, not knowing the answers to all the questions is the safest way to escape a situation.

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18th Edition of Express Technology Sabha > June 18-21, 2015 > The Lalit Golf Resort> Goa

The 18th Edition of Express Technology Sabha, India’s premier e-governance congregation.  Supported by the Department of Information Technology, GOI, the 18th Edition of Technology Sabha 2015 is all set to create a new benchmark in e-governance seminars through leadership dialogues, networking opportunities and a technology show case with a singular aim to gather policy makers, decision makers and implementers of ICT within the government and the service providers to deliberate and debate on ICT challenges, which are unique to the community, to deliver a more transparent and efficient government.

The Eighteenth Technology Sabha will be held at The Lalit Golf Resort, Goa, between June 18 -21, 2015 (4 days & 3 Nights) where the benchmark will touch new heights with the congregation of who’ s who from the government sector.

The theme for the 18th Edition of Express Technology Sabha is ‘9 Pillars of Digital India; taking eGovernance to Next Level’

The following are the proposed tracks that would be covered in the 18th Edition:
·         Cyber Security
·         Big Data & BI
·         Managing Surveillance
·         Storage Solutions
·         Cloud Computing
·         Unified Communication & Video Conferencing
·         Printing in Government (including DMS & MPS)
·         Green Governance (Green IT for Smart Cities)
·         On the Go (Mobility influencing EA)
·         Dynamics of Next Generation Data Center
·         Mobility Solutions
·         Broadband
·         DR solutions
·         And Many More

Why participate in Technology Sabha?

·         Get an insight into the plan of e-development of Digital India vision.
·          Understand the multi-pronged strategy of e-infrastructure creation that facilitates and promotes Smart Cities.
·         Discuss strategic trends in e-governance and the future road maps of state governments and gain a strategic overview helping you identify your future business path.
·         Engage with your government customers and be a key driver in the new opportunities and spending on ICT solutions, software and technologies in the government.
·         Forge and strengthen relationships with IT Leaders from the government  to discuss the most critical and current technology challenges and pain points.
·         Network with close to 100 creme-de-la-crème of government IT leaders from across India over 3 days.
Who will attend?

·         Secretary – Information Technology, GOI and prominent members from the e-Governance Group
·         IT Secretaries from major states
·         Key NIC / NICSI / DeitY representatives
·         e-Governance heads from state government
·         IT Heads from various government nodal bodies
·         IT Heads from various departments from 8 major states
·         IT Heads from Defence establishment
·         IT Heads from Railways
·         Director – Digital India program & State SEMT heads


For more details on 18th Edition of Express Technology Sabha, Log on to www.technologysabha.com

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"Successful failures"

"I have been an active follower of spirituality since I was 9. I still remember the days when I was used to listen to those high funda spiritual discourses at the centres of Radha Soami Satsang Beas (RSSB), the spiritual  organisation based out of "Beas" which is a small city located on the bank of river Beas. Fortunately for me, those discourses transformed me into more positive person and in the person who I am today."

Today, while I listen to same discourses I realise that there cannot be anything in this world which can provide us contentment. We keep running towards achieving our goals, our ambitions and fulfilling our parents dreams, a friends promise or a girl friend's demand. But what do we get in the end! Criticism! Criticism of having not done something which is left out after doing all the hardships. May be, I am wrong in analysing but one thing i can say is that we cannot keep anybody satisfied. People here, are fighting for their space and to protect their ego. You bend once and trust me there will be 100's of people to take you on a ride. Even the best of situations turns out into a disaster and then eventually we feel, "why god is so unfair to us?" Or May be god doesn't love us as much as they do to Ambani's, Tata's and Birla's. But do we ever thank that almighty for anything. No! It's only the human tendency where we enjoy blaming others for mistakes or even worse, for our mistakes!  Look around yourself, be it in our professional or personal space, we, the so called topmost creation of god, blame each other for every agony we have or as if that's not enough, we crib! And while cribbing in each and every situation we forget to live our life. I feel, it's high time that we start appreciating each and every moment of our life. If not every moment, then at least the moments we spend with our families. 

I remember having a religious debate with few of my friends and they amused me when they said that doing good to others, breaking our heads on stones, lighting an "agarbatti" in front of a stone statue, means "Spirituality" to them. I don't disagree! At least, that creates an environment of being spiritual. But what I don't agree is to spend our entire life in doing so! because out of 100 times we pray to god, 100 times we ask or rather demand something or the other. Hence, I do not call you a spiritual person. We must believe in the fact that we will anyways get those things which we deserve but not which we think we should have. If we call ourselves the topmost creation of god, then we must have faith in the creator. 

It may all sound like another person giving "gyan". But my point is, " if it does sound like a gyan to you then perhaps you should have imbibed it long ago." 

Nothing we will achieve by enticing or appeasing others in this world because in the end everybody faces that eventuality of death. Let's make this world a better place to live our lives and not the place which currently looks to me as another organisation where we, as an employee, are busy appeasing each other. I call this as a " Successful failures" because we might be successful in winning others (human beings) confidence but eventually we will all be a "failure" if we continue doing this. 

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"Appreciate thyself!"

"Last week I was in Hyderabad for an event organised by my organisation, the 17th edition of Express Technology Sabha and as many of us think that organizing an event is no big deal! Yeah, you got it right, NO BIG DEAL! (Though, my friends & colleagues in event management would kill me if I say this :)).

While I was in the stage of creating a buzz or hype about the event before the event, one of my colleague (who is a journalist) asked me whether I would be attending the event or not (Perhaps, he would have thought that me being a sales guy, there was nothing I could have done during the event). So, unarguably my answer was "YES, I would be!" And his reaction on that was, " Great, then you must be enjoying all these four days"! I thought of explaining him the pain involved in "execution" part of the event but I held myself back and realized he wouldn't understand that."

The idea of narrating this incident was to make you realize as to how "unappreciative " we all are towards others work ( others include people who is of our age, junior or subordinate)! We don't realize what others go through while doing anything. To add to the agonies, we always make assumption as if we know in an out about everything. But yes! We do appreciate others work when it is all about our bosses, super bosses or somebody in strong position who we think, can be useful if we appreciate him/her. So, question is, "why are we so ambiguous"? Let me not dig into finding the answer for that! Cos "appreciation" now a days have become a matter of solicitation and we only do that if we feel we are going to be benefited from the person who we are appreciating. But have we been truthful to ourselves while doing so! Let's not fake it and try to be more honest in our feedback.

 

And the perfect solution to this is to "appreciate thyself"! Cos that is what we all want from others. Isn't it?? So, why can't we do it for ourselves? Once you start appreciating yourself for all you have been doing for so long to people, to your organisation and to yourself, you will feel yourself filled in with so much of confidence that your inner self will have clarity about who you should be appreciative towards! 

As far as I am concerned, I never appreciated myself in all these years for what I have been doing or giving to people but everything which I did or put in my soul into have made me stronger enough to quickly decide that there's no point appreciating others. Rather, it's high time that I "APPRECIATE MYSELF" for having been able to do whatever I could!!!!

Hope, we all agree to it!

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